Redefinition

To be a man is not a day job they say. I have been wondering what it will cost me to be this man everybody is talking about. You too de think!!! Is your name wonder wonder? Hmmmmm, I just need to know and be better. So I set out to achieving this MAN everybody wants and dreams for me.  I believe before now that I can do it all by myself. I don’t need anybody to help me so that they don’t say “I helped him to become what he is today”. I didn’t even want anybody for a minute to shout or claim that he/she was part of my success story in any form or shape. I wanted to be SELF-MADE person and I had that mentality for a long time that some time in my life I observed that my friends that I started off with the same time has actually out ran me and they are all at their peak. I was so consumed with anger and jealousy that I wanted to bury myself alive in myself. Hahahahaha Don’t ask me how I intended doing that!!! The truth is that I’m tired of staying where I was and I wa...

Yesterday I was a bit confused. Are you confused, how? I thought you are an inspirational speaker and you have sorted all things out? Yes!!! I was at some point yesterday confused of what to do next, how to go about it, when to go and where to go. I have my plans but I wasn't seeing it, I tried, I fixed my eyes on it to see clear but it was blur. So, I sat down last night to do some few things; 1. I started by counting my blessings and naming them one by one. In doing just that, I found out that God has been faithful and He has been taking me by the hand. 2. I went back to my drawing board to check if I have missed the plan, behold I was still on track. 3. I also went back to all the messages I posted on Facebook and WhatsApp. I started reading through all of them. In doing this, I found out that I needed motivation. There are sometimes in life you get to a cross road and you don't know what next to do. You just have to start motivating yourself that you ca...

Hmmmmm When I walk in to some places now they tend to call me the possibility guy/boy, the visioner, etc. I keep laughing at people in my heart each time I hear them praise and hail me for my sharkara. Do you know why I'm laughing? I never for once believed in anything in the time past. I doubted to the point that God use my dad to heal someone in my very front at the church in Awka 1993/1994, I never believed it was true. I saw a woman in stretcher stand up and rejiocing for a miracle in 2004 after hearing the word of God by Pastor Chris Oyakilome in Ikeja Christ Embassy. While we were praying for some set of sick people, my friend layed hands on the sick people and they got healed. I kept wondering how come all of these miracles, signs and wonders are happening but it's not passing through me!! Na My own different??? I just wanted to know why I'm not having the same thing other people are experiencing or having. The questions in...

I actually support girl child training and wellfare but that shouldn't stop us from taking care of the males. The girls are now given more attention to than the boys as making the girls to be more responsible than the boys. But I keep asking myself this questions; * If the girls are now taking more responsibilities than the MALECHILD what would be the MALECHILD's take? * What would world look like when the girls are the bread winners and the boys are house husbands? * What is then the dignity of the man if not trained to take responsibilities of his life and that of his family? We actually need to train our male children. #malechild #malechildpersonaldevelopmentandmore #malechildtraining #mind #mindset #mindsetiseverything

Lessons from me to my myself over the words that I speak. This week has taught me great deal of lessons about the words that I speak. I decided to be conscious of these words that I speak, not just the words but the words that I listen to not only that too also the words that I read. These words shape my mind, my person and character. It is through my words that I build the house I live in but I have to make sure the kind of hou asse I'm building to live in with my words. Is  this a house of gold where other people will come and join me to rejoice for being a motivation to them or .. A house of wickedness where people will run away from me because the cutlass I place with words in their lives. I guess that's not the kinda house I want to build. I want people to come in to the house I'm building with my words and feel at home. I just have to get it right, I speak strength, I speak prosperous words, love, peace, change, the truth, innovative words an...

Words are powerful yet a lot of people take it to be common. It tears down strong men and bury them in the mud. Words dries up the fresh lungs and shatter it on rock without mercy if not used rightly. Some of the parents, guidance and councilor or teachers neglect this fact when they handle the children within their care. The words we speak to our children stick to their mind and can't be easily removed, that is more reasons we have to be kind with the words we speak to our children. The words we speak to our children either builds them positively or destroys them. But our children don't need the destructive words rather the encouraging ones. When we speak abusive words to our children, it puts them away from us, wash away the relationship between them and us as a flowing river as such they only obey us because of fear not for respect sake. If the child does anything wrong, there are corrective words to use. First make him/her understand the fact that his/her ac...

On a several occasions I have seen parents rain words on their children as though they are not the actual parents of these kids. I have also seen Managers in the work place shout and rain words on their secretary or colleagues for a little mistake. Sometimes also you see such between friends as they say all manner of negative words to their friends in the name of anger. Hmmmmm... After fighting my colleague in the office with words, she became emotionally drained that she couldn't do anything anymore. She just wanted to hide her tears but she couldn't. She walked up to me and told me that she was sorry but she is going to resign from the job because she can't stand those words from me. On hearing those line of words, my heart melted like ice placed in a hot water. I understood immediately what she was passing through because I have once be in her shoes. I couldn't rest anymore because I knew inside of me that I have killed her spirit in the job with the wor...

Leading some set of people does not mean you do their work for them to show how much you love or care for them, it goes beyond that. Leadership is all about the leader having the capacity to inspire people to do what they are supposed to do at the actual time. It's all about inspiration. Giving people money all the time the need money will forever make them your slave and steal from them the ability to do or think out something. A good leader is a good inspirational speaker. Sometimes all your followers need is inspiration to take responsibility. #Redefinition #JoshuaIkegwuonu #mind #Mindset #malechildtraining #leadership